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B Back channels This is a form of communication used by a listener to show that they are paying attention, such as “uh-huh”. The signal can be a noise, gesture, expression, or word, often a head movements, brief vocalization or facial expression. These are meant to encourage as opposed to interrupt the speaker. Bacon, Francis Bandler, Richard  Barriers From an early age, humans hide behind a barrier if threatened. Controlling space and distance in this way can be a comforting and protective behaviour. When experiencing stress or simple in social situations, the ventral region (trunk) is often covered unconsciously, and often fleetingly. It could be obvious, such as arms being crossed – in which case the tightness of the grip/interlocking can be significant when detecting anxiety - or subtle, such as checking a phone, watch, tie knot, or pulling a sleeve down. The cufflink-check seen done by Prince Charles also allows for the touching of the wrist, another comforter....

A Abrazo Originating in Latin America, the abrazo has become a popular greeting or celebratory action, particularly among males under the age of 50. The embrace action sees chests come together with the arms hooking around, often with hands patting the back. Absolutes (no) There are no ‘absolutes’ in body language as state Rouse & Hartley; no single action that, taken in isolation, can be taken to signal one meaning. Absorbed actions Actions that we emulate and adopt unconsciously from other members of our ingroup. They vary from group to group and culturally but easily spread to other likeminded groups. Morris gave the example of some homosexual males’ mannerisms. Acceptance The action of consenting to receive, undertake, make peace with, or acknowledge something. Signs include a reduction in muscular tension, and an increase in nodding, smiling, open posture, open palms and touching. Acceptance can also be supressed or reluctant, with sighing and pursed lips among t...

Read People  by Rita Carter First published 2018 Using a unique, visual approach to explore the science of behaviour, Read People shows how understanding why people act in certain ways will make you more adept at communication, more persuasive and a better judge of the motivations of others. The increasing speed of communication in the modern world makes it more important than ever to understand the subtle behaviours behind everyday interactions. In 20 dip-in lessons, Rita Carter translates the signs that reveal a person's true feelings and intentions and exposes how these signals drive relationships, crowds and even society's behaviour. Learn the influencing tools used by leaders and recognise the fundamental patterns of behaviour that shape how we act and how we communicate.

The Psychology of Lying and Detecting Lies  by Bella DePaulo  First published 2018 This book is a collection of 29 of the most popular blog posts and chapters written by Bella DePaulo, one of the world’s leading experts on the psychology of lying and detecting lies. Drawing from research – much of it her own – Professor DePaulo helps us understand big-time liars as well as the more ordinary liars in our everyday lives. Want to know what science has to say about detecting deception? There are 7 short chapters on that. Another 9 chapters explore the dynamics of deceit in our interactions with our romantic partners, friends, and family. Regardless of what you think you already know about deception, you will undoubtedly learn something new and surprising from this book.

Captivate  by Vanessa Van Edwards First published 2018 Being the best you can be doesn’t require saying ‘yes’ to everything and you don’t have to ‘fake it to make it’. Instead, Captivate teaches you how to be authentic through seeking out situations that enable you to thrive simply by being you. Learn how to be a good listener, discover how dopamine can mark your conversations, and find out why pockets are the murderers of rapport. At times funny, often insightful and always accessible, Captivate is crammed with practical tips to improve your relationships. The science, such as how novelty stimulates the brain, is well explained and the personal stories draw you in. Never heard of the Franklin effect? this book is for you. There are tips on where to stand at a party, and why, as science and its practical implications are brought together by Vanessa Van Edwards, a superb communicator.

Face Value  by Alexander Todorov First published 2017 The scientific story of first impressions--and why the snap character judgments we make from faces are irresistible but usually incorrect We make up our minds about others after seeing their faces for a fraction of a second--and these snap judgments predict all kinds of important decisions. For example, politicians who simply look more competent are more likely to win elections. Yet the character judgments we make from faces are as inaccurate as they are irresistible; in most situations, we would guess more accurately if we ignored faces. So why do we put so much stock in these widely shared impressions? What is their purpose if they are completely unreliable? In this book, Alexander Todorov, one of the world's leading researchers on the subject, answers these questions as he tells the story of the modern science of first impressions. Drawing on psychology, cognitive science, neuroscience, computer science, and other ...

Dangerous Personalities  by Joe Navarro First published 2014 Joe Navarro, a leading FBI profiler, unlocks the secrets to the personality disorders that put us all at risk. When we wake up to new tragedies in the news every day--shootings, rampages, acts of domestic terrorism--we often blame ourselves for missing the mania lurking inside unsuspecting individuals. But how could we have known that the charismatic leader had the characteristics of a tyrant? And how can ordinary people identify threats from those who are poised to devastate their lives on a daily basis--the crazy co-workers, out-of-control family members, or relentless neighbours? In Dangerous Personalities, former FBI profiler Joe Navarro has the answers. He shows us how to identify the four most common "dangerous personalities" and how to analyse the potential threat level: the Narcissist, the Predator, the Paranoid, and the Unstable Personality. Along the way, he provides essential tips and tricks t...

Body Language Secrets Revealed  by Eric Goulard and Craig James Baxter  First published 2013  Friends or foes? Do you want to miss out on a good business opportunity? And what if it was the love of your life? Do you wish to know where their true intentions may really be hidden? They may not be telling you everything... With the majority of our communication being unconscious, involuntary and unavoidable, Eric Goulard presents new keys to help decode the behaviour of others in business situations and in private life. A person’s demeanour, gestures, and voice can tell you a lot about them, provided that you know how to decrypt the signs. Because actions speak louder than words, it is necessary to listen beyond just what the person wants to say. The analysis of all non-verbal communication will help you keep one step ahead of others. You will then be able to anticipate people’s reactions and optimize your communication.

The Art of Reading Minds  by Henrik Fexeus  First published 2012 Using skills such as non-verbal communication, body language and psychological influence, we can find out what another person thinks and feels – and consequently control that person’s thoughts and beliefs any way we want. Henrik Fexeus introduces a new kind of practical interpretation of the concept mind reading, which you will find practical in all aspects of your everyday life: job interviews, on a first date, suggesting proposals to your boss and in all social situations where you want to get your ideas across and influence other people. Posture, intonation, pace, glances and hand gestures all reveal what a person feels. Often it will be in direct conflict with the message they are expressing in words. Henrik Fexeus gives you the right tools to decipher these hidden messages. After his academic education in philosophy, Henrik Fexeus rapidly became a communications specialist. Fexeus is now an apprec...

Your Body at Work  by David Givens  First published 2010 Your Body at Work is a guide to seeing past the words that fill the hallways, conference rooms, and e-mails of your workplace, and to deciphering the hidden meanings that lie behind them. Through real-life examples from the world of business, and with background from the science of communication, you'll learn to sight-read colleagues and use your own body language to your best advantage. You'll find out: How a co-worker's hands, much more than her words, tell you how she felt about your presentation; Why gestures at a meeting are more memorable than words; When a shrug of the shoulders can mean the difference between "job well done" and "job could be better";   How to train a nosy boss to back off―without uttering a single word; What your shoes and your hair may be saying about your commitment to the job; Why you'll find more smiley-face stickers in cubicles than in corner offices. G...

Winning Body Language  by Mark Bowden  First published 2010 Whether you're presenting an idea, delivering a speech, managing a team, or negotiating a deal, your body language plays a key role in your overall success. This ingenious step-by-step guide, written by an elite trainer of Fortune 50 CEOs and G8 world leaders, unlocks the secrets of nonverbal communication--using a proven system of universal techniques that can give you the ultimate professional advantage. You'll discover how to sit, stand, and subtly alter your body language to move with confidence, control conversations, command attention, persuade and influence others, and convey positive energy―without saying a word.

Crime Signals  by David Givens  First published 2008 David Givens, a foremost expert in nonverbal communication, offers an instructive, intriguing, and essential tool for warding off crime and protecting your safety and your family's. Before a lie is spoken, a pocket is picked, or an assault is inflicted, each and every criminal gives off silent cues. They can be as subtle as a shrug of the shoulder, a pointed finger, or an averted gaze.   But together, they make up a nonverbal language that speaks loud and clear—if you’re trained to see it. Crime is never unpredictable. Before a lie is spoken, a pocket is picked, or an assault is inflicted, there are silent cues: a nonverbal language that speaks loud and clear if you're trained to see it. Filled with fascinating real-life stories of crime and survival, "Crime Signals" is a comprehensive guide designed to help you stay alert to the warning signs of a wide array of offenses. From the telltale signals of a sw...

Sequence Organization in Interaction  by Emanuel A. Schegloff First published 2007 Much of our daily lives are spent talking to one another, in both ordinary conversation and more specialized settings such as meetings, interviews, classrooms, and courtrooms. It is largely through conversation that the major institutions of our society - economy, religion, politics, family and law - are implemented. This book by Emanuel Schegloff, the first in a series and first published in 2007, introduces the findings and theories of conversation analysis. Together, the volumes in the series constitute a complete and authoritative 'primer' in the subject. The topic of this first volume is 'sequence organization' - the ways in which turns-at-talk are ordered and combined to make actions take place in conversation, such as requests, offers, complaints, and announcements. Containing many examples from real-life conversations, it will be invaluable to anyone interested in hum...

Gesture and Thought  by David McNeill First published 2005 Psychologist and psycholinguist David McNeill argues that gestures are active participants in both speaking and thinking, gestures being a key ingredient in an "imagery-language dialectic" that fuels speech and thought. Gestures are the "imagery" and also the components of "language," rather than mere consequences. The smallest unit of this dialectic is the "growth point," a snapshot of an utterance at its beginning psychological stage. McNeill studied videos of stimulus stories being retold "together with their co-occurring spontaneous gestures" by speakers of different languages, ages and abilities. He found that body gestures, rather than being unrelated to spoken content, worked together with words to convey true meaning. Gestures can replace speech but should therefore be typically considered jointly as integral components of communication, emphasising and supp...

Gesture: Visible Action as Utterance  by Adam Kendon  First published 2004 Gesture, or visible bodily action intimately involved in the activity of speaking, has long fascinated scholars and laymen alike. Written by a leading authority on the subject, this book draws on the analysis of everyday conversations to demonstrate the varied role of gestures in the construction of utterances. Publication of this definitive account of the topic marks a major development in semiotics as well as in the emerging field of gesture studies. Adam Kendon, zoologist and experimental psychology, worked on face-to-face interaction, sign languages, and gesture becoming an authority on the subjects and the history of their study. His observed how these nonverbal signals relate to spoken language, his focus including work on Australian Aboriginal sign languages. In developing a general framework for understanding gestures he was able to apply the same rigorous semiotic analysis that had...

The Book of Tells  by Peter Collett First published 2004 In this illuminating book, Peter Collett, social psychologist, former Oxford don introduces the fascinating concept of Tells, showing how they work, where they come from and how to identify and interpret them. It’s an invaluable guide to the messages that we unwittingly send, and the impact that these might have on those around us. Comprehensive and accessible in its approach, and written in the tradition of Manwatching (Collett worked with Desmond Morris on the later book Gestures) The Book of Tells offers a unifying vocabulary for understanding human communication and social influence - and a unique opportunity to read yourself, and others. The way you stand when you're talking to others, how you move your feet, your hands, your eyes - even your eyebrows - says a lot about your commitment to a conversation and your underlying attitude. Your actions and stance can also affect how long you get to talk and how often...